It might be hard, but if you look for the good amidst the chaos, you will find it!
My mom and I were on our way to see my grandparents after months of no contact due to COVID-19. Besides a few grocery deliveries, they hadn’t had physical contact with anyone since February, and they don’t have internet. We arrived prepared with food, masks, and rubber gloves to get in, clean their house, visit and then head home, hopefully not infecting anyone along the way. It was sad and stressful.
What if I was asymptomatic and got them sick?
That was just one worry; the world in its entirety felt so heavy and freshly depressing. People were dying, cities burning, history was being erased and societal opinions were beginning to change friendships and relationships.
I was aware of misfortune in our world, but also the unfairness of the media; everywhere you turned was bad news. I had to remove social media off my phone, because instead of being fun to keep in touch, it’s become a breeding ground for hatred and political viewpoints.
Besides the world outside our home, I was struggling with some new parenting hurdles.
Due to the pandemic, my four-year-old daughter developed new “germaphobic” tendencies. She wanted to bathe twice a day, morning and night, and won’t touch anyone if they haven’t showered recently. I’m sure it is because everywhere we go we see masks and hand sanitizer, and all she worries about is getting germs on her now.
Besides that, work is hard to balance with kids at home, job cuts and financial cuts are being made everywhere across the country. We can’t even find anywhere to go to escape for a vacation!
I felt like I was at a point in my life where I was truly scared of what might come.
What is life going to be like for my children? What can I do to stay true to my values and fight for change where it is needed?
My mind was churning, my heart was heavy and then– I saw six freshly planted trees in a ditch in central Iowa. Then I saw six more.
And it hit me that amidst all this heaviness there is still a lot of good that we don’t get to see.
Someone took the time to plant trees in a time when that seems like the last thing that would be happening. In a world where it seems like there isn’t any happiness available, twelve baby trees were planted.
Then, I saw someone holding the door at the gas station for an elderly couple.
A homemade trailer to collect cans for the local school fundraiser.
People paying for each other’s coffees, and holding hands to walk into the grocery store.
And I realized that for me to truly see how much good is in the world, I have to open my eyes to it and look for it.
Everywhere people are still falling in love. Babies are being born. Friendships are starting. People are getting new jobs, new homes, beating cancer. Those aren’t headlines we are going to see. We have to open our eyes to the possibility that there is more positivity in the world than what we see as news headlines.
It doesn’t replace the fact that our world is a heavy place right now.
Anxiety and depression rates are skyrocketing. Don’t ignore the needs of our society or our world, but this little message is to remind you that it’s not all there is. There is so much more going on that we can open our eyes to so we can make it through each day knowing there is good happening somewhere.
Look for the good and you will find it. Do good and it will spread.
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